You ever notice how your body figures out a relationship is sketchy long before your brain even clocks in for the day? Your intuition is basically that exhausted coworker waving a neon-red flag while your heart is in the back going, “But they’re cute…”
Let’s talk about that moment—you know it—when you feel more anxious around someone than you feel happy.
Because when your stomach flips every time their name lights up your phone, those aren’t butterflies. That’s your internal organs holding an intervention.
Your body is the friend whispering loudly at brunch, “Babe… absolutely not.”
It tightens your chest, speeds up your pulse, and turns your anxiety into a full-time job. Meanwhile your brain—bless her—is still writing excuses like it’s her senior thesis:
- “Maybe they’re just stressed.”
- “Maybe I misread the vibe.”
- “Maybe the moon is in an inconvenient mood.”
No, sweetie. Maybe they’re the problem.
A healthy partner shouldn’t feel like a pop quiz or a performance review. You shouldn’t need deep-breathing techniques just to hang out. The right person brings peace, not panic; comfort, not cortisol.
And here’s where the wisdom kicks in:
Follow your heart, sure… but take your brain with you.
Your heart loves a good story.
Your brain is the one checking the plot holes.
So if your body is sending warnings—listen. It doesn’t care about their potential, their promise, or how good they look in car selfies. It cares about your survival.
Honestly? Your nervous system has never been wrong.
Your “I can fix them” era, though… that one has quite the resume.
Apache Widow 